Welcome to part 2 of 5 Ways to Lessen the Load of Autism Parenting. In part 1, we concluded that Autism Parenting Does Not Get Easier, you get stronger. In today’s post, I want to talk about having the right support in your journey. Yes, it is important that autism parents have friends who just get it.
Before I get started, I wanted to introduce myself to those who are new to my blog. My name is Tiffany Simpson and I am a breakthrough parenting coach for autism families. I am also Super Mom to a very talented 13 year old animation developer with autism.
My journey as super mom became apparent a few years ago, when my son was diagnosed with autism. It was during this challenge that I taught myself to create computer games and mobile apps to help him overcome challenges with is speech and social skills. The results were amazing. Today, he is 13 years old and has his own business in animation development. He has also created his first animation development course. If you would like to learn more about our journey, please visit my about page.
Just To Back Track…
If you had a chance to read part of 1 of this series (click here to read it), you will recall when I decided to homeschool my son. I was met with great opposition. It was not “the right thing to do” simply because it was different from what everyone else was doing. But my son was different from everyone else and he needed a different solution entirely.
When he was first diagnosed with autism, I had created the computer games and mobile apps. These personalized games helped him to develop his speech and social skills. But once he started school, the solution was no longer adequate. They could only take him so far. He had learned how to memorize. And was doing well in school. He was getting good grades. To the person looking from the outside, he was doing well. What they did not see were the tantrums he threw when he didn’t know the answer, because he had not previously memorized it. What they did not see was that he did not understand any of the words he was saying. He was only “scripting“.
I struggled to explain to everyone that it was great that my son was socializing, but I wanted him to learn so that he would be able to develop life skills later on. Social skills are great to have, but it was not going to be the basis of his daily life. I insisted that this was not adequate for my son. Because I was a single mom, with sole custody of my son, I had my way. But nobody was happy about it. And they made it known.
Autism Parents Need Friends Who Just Get it
Looking back, I am happy that I stood up for my son. I am happy that I advocated for his needs and not what made every body else comfortable. I am happy that I stood my ground, even though I had to stand alone for many years. I am glad I took on that challenge. I am happy about where my son is in life and how his future looks.
I also want to encourage other autism parents who are struggling to find support. You need friends who just get it. Friends who know you are good people and are not going to question your judgement because they don’t like feeling out of place. You need friends you are flexible. Friends who can adapt as things change without the anxiety of what their other friends might feel about it. Autism parents need super friends.
If you are an autism parent looking for support, I want to invite you to join the Super Mom Academy. In this Facebook group we support other autism parents in their journey. We have online and local meetups. And there is so much support and understanding for what you are going through and how to get through it.
I want to thank you for stopping by. Please feel free to leave a comment. Let us know how we can support you.
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