Autism Parenting Does Not Get Easier…
Welcome to part 1 of a 5 part series on 5 Ways to Lessen the Load of Autism Parenting. In this blog post I will discuss the root of your autism parenting struggles and what you can do to lessen the load.
But before I begin, let me first introduce myself. My name is Tiffany Simpson and I am a Breakthrough Parenting Coach for Autism Families. I am also Super Mom to an amazing 13 year old animation developer with autism. My journey as Super Mom became apparent after my son was diagnosed with autism. It was during this challenge that I taught myself to create computer games and mobile apps to help my son overcome challenges with his speech and social skills. The results were amazing. Today, he is 13 years old and has his own business in animation development. He has even produced his first Animation Development Course. If you would like to learn more about our journey, please visit my about page.
Once my son had settled into school life, I realized that he had outgrown the little games I had created for him. We were slowly slipping back to square one. The tantrums started again. The feeling of defeat started to take over.
He had learned to memorize his homework with some help from me. When there were any in-class assignments, he knew what to do, because he had memorized everything the day before. He would do well in class. He was getting good grades.
This was the dream, right? No, it wasn’t. He did well in class, but when he got home, he would break down. He could not read. He could only memorize. A lot of what he was saying was “scripting“. He did not understand most of what was going on. As the pressure from school started to get more and more intense, so did things at home.
Everyone was happy that he was “finally doing well”. It was hard for me to explain what was going on. I could not articulate that it only looked that way.
I made the decision to take him out of school and started to homeschool. No one supported my decision. The people around me became furious. They said I was only destroying his future by taking him away from things that are “normal”. I struggled to explain the logic. He needed to find his own way. Not the one society had decided was right for him (and everyone else). I could not let him go through life not developing the skills to survive. It was very hard. And everyone had their own opinion and theories as they hurled their insults at me. But I knew I was making the right decision.
In the first couple years of homeschooling, I only focused on reading. If he could read, then he would be able to handle the other subjects. It took some time, but not only was he reading, but he started to understand what he was reading. It was not until around the 3rd year of homeschooling that I began to notice that he could hold a conversation that made sense.
Once he started to read well enough, he took a liking to animation development. He started to do his own research on YouTube and taught himself to create animations using free software. He asked me to buy the pro version and he started to produce his own animations for his YouTube channel. At age 10, he recorded his first course. Which he sells on his website.
You Get Stronger
Autism parenting does not get easier, you just get better at navigating your way around the challenges. You get better at coming up with solutions. You get better at figuring out what works for your child. You get stronger as you break free from the cookie-cutter parenting of “one method suits all”. And that is the strength of a super parent.
As you continue on your journey, it is important to remind yourself that you cannot follow the same blueprint other parents are following. And you have to remind them that their support will be as unique as your journey is. And the people who love you and understand, will help you carry on.
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But before you leave, what are some aspects of your autism parenting journey, that you believe became more difficult over time? How did you over come those challenges? What are some areas you are stuck and need help in? I would love to hear from you in the comments below.
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