Hi there. And welcome to the Super Mom Coach blog. In this week’s blog post I want to share with you 5 ways to communicate with teens that are both effective and harmonious. Yes, there can be harmony in your home with teens who occupy the same space as you do.
But before I get into the techniques on how to communicate with teens, let me first introduce myself for those of you who are new to my blog (and other channels). My name is Tiffany Simpson and I am a Life Coach, Parenting Coach and Super Mom to a 13 year old animation developer with autism. My journey as both a life coach and Super Mom began a few years ago, when my son was diagnosed with autism. It was during this challenge that I embarked on a self care journey, during which time I taught myself to create computer games and mobile apps to help my son overcome challenges with his speech and social skills. The results were amazing. Today, he is 13 years old and a YouTuber who has produced his first animation development course. If you would like to learn more about our journey, please visit my about page.
5 Ways to Communicate With Teens
The entire world (parents and teachers especially) are having a hard time communicating with teens. The truth is, teenagers are not afraid to call you out on your bullsh*t and hypocrisy. You can no longer threaten then with Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny. And now, you are at an awkward stage where you cannot demand or threaten them to do what you want. And guess what? Yes, you the adult have an issue with clear (no bullsh*t) communication. And no, I am not trying to lecture you on that. It worked well when they were younger. But now that they are older, you need to understand that through the eyes of a teenager, your communication style is really low effort. And it is time to fix it.
So here are some ways you can start to communicate with teens that will produce meaningful interactions with them, less friction and more harmony.
- Do not start yelling – it is DISRESPECTFUL. Even to young kids. It does not matter how angry you ae, it is not ok to yell (at anybody at all)
- Cut the preludes leading up to a request. Simply ask them to do XY and Z and say THANK YOU. You know, the stuff you taught them. They have not forgotten. They no longer see you doing it.
- Do not make the discussion about yourself – You have toiled to raise and nurture them. It is YOUR job. It is really low effort when you complain about it. It sets the stage for resentment. Don’t do it. Teenagers will not let that slide.
- Help them explore creativity – Creativity is a great form of expression. Helping your teen to explore his or her creativity will give there more ways to express themselves. It will also improve communication in the environment (home, school, youth group etc.). Some ideas and feelings take teens much longer to articulate in words. Creativity gives them an outlet for their limited vocabulary.
- Do not leave teens stranded – As they get older, teens are awarded more responsibilities. And that is great, they are journeying towards adult life. However, they are not always given the opportunity to develop the skills to take on these new responsibilities. Often what appears to be a rebellious teen, is simply a scared kid who does not have the skills for the new responsibilities at hand.
And those are 5 ways you can communicate with teens to improve harmony and create balance in any environment. In August, I am launching the the Super Mom Academy digital startup hub for Pre-Teens, Teens and Young Adults, where they can access free resources to help them launch their own startup ideas. These would include mobile apps (published for sale on the app stores) among other things. Be sure to subscribe to my newsletter to learn more about when the hub goes live. I will go into more details in another blog post to explain how this hub will help young people with self-expression and communication. And what we hope to achieve in the first year of the hub.
In the comments below, I’d like to here more from you (the adults) about some of the ways you struggle to communicate with teens around you. What techniques, if any, have you applied to improve your communication with your teens. Will you invite them to join the Digital Startup Hub by the Super Mom Academy?